April 1st, known as April fools day or All fools day.
I feel that for the most of my life I have tried to stay away from being the fool or being considered the fool. Just the word “fool” seemed to hold such negative connotations for me. After looking at what my perception of the “fool” has been growing up and then now looking at the purpose and meaning of the “fool’ in the tarot my opinion has greatly shifted. Let me share with you what would be known as the traditional meaning of the word fool, as well as it’s meaning and representation in my favorite Tarot deck Shadowscapes.
To begin I will once again reference the good old Merriam Webster dictionary…
Definition of FOOL
- those fools who ride motorcycles without wearing helmets
- Only a fool would ask such a silly question.
- You’d be a fool to believe what he tells you.
- You’re making yourself look like a fool.
To start off I like the thought of being one that is lacking in judgement or prudence. Doesn’t say I have none… just lacking and I think we could all do a little better with removing “Certain” judgemental behaviors (I will keep the good ones like discernment). The rest of them sound created out of fear. Fear of seeing someone doing something that seems to them as making no sense. The label of fool easily becomes negative, since no one wants to be labeled a victim. The words common powers of understanding screams someone who is thinking outside the norm! And then they throw in examples like…a dancing fool…what is wrong with dancing? Lets just cut through the PC tape and say what we mean Merriam Webster… A fool is someone who we (the collective) are confused by. They do not follow the common train of thought. They are wildly unpredictable and seem to really enjoy being their own person. We are afraid of the lack of control the fool seems to exhibit. The fool does not fear the unknown…he does not fear anything.
Now…here is the Shadowscape definition of the Fool in the Tarot deck.
Meaning: The Fool is a symbol for new beginnings and adventures, pleasure, passion, thoughtless and rash. Like the Fool, you may stand upon the precipice gazing out into the unknown; and there is either an oblivious foolishness to the terrible plunge you may experience, or else a wild spirit of adventure and great faith and knowledge in that which can and will bear you up and guide through the times to come. There are unlimited possibilities opening up for the seeker.
I long to be the fool….
To take that infamous step and have faith that all is right. Today I am going to channel my inner fool. We all have one in there! In honor of All fools day I will be but a fool, even if it is for one day. One day may lead to two…two..to three. Today I will remove the layers of programing (or at least attempt to let them fall) I will let my heart and my spirit lead me throughout the day.
I do find it interesting that the Fool (all fools day) occurs during the Aries sun sign. Both represent the beginning… All beginnings require faith and trust…to be the first there has to be some sense of wild adventure and belief in the universe as well as oneself and a higher power.
Happy April fools day… embrace your inner child today, you know the one that allows you to be fool hearty and fearless!
How many of you feel that this word should be bolded and in all caps!? JUDGEMENT….
How do you define JUDGMENT Here is Merriam Websters attempt.
1) a : a formal utterance of an authoritative opinion
b : an opinion so pronounced
2) a : a formal decision given by a court
b (1) : an obligation (as a debt) created by the decree of a court
(2) : a certificate evidencing such a decree
3) a: capitalized : the final judging of humankind by God
b : a divine sentence or decision; specifically : a calamity held to be sent by God
4) a : the process of forming an opinion or evaluation by discerning and comparing
b : an opinion or estimate so formed
5) a : the capacity for judging : discernment
b : the exercise of this capacity
6) : a proposition stating something believed or asserted
- They are picking on someone who appears different to make themselves feel superior.
- They wish they had the strength to be their own person.
- Their personal anger towards themselves for not having the courage to stand out pushes them to act out, the scenario they fear they would encounter.
- They do not feel free to express themselves and be their true self (so why should someone else)
- pick on… so you’re not picked on.
I think you get my point in regards to outward judgement. It is usually an act of fear and jealousy (in an odd way).
Let’s turn the table around and look at judgement from the dreaded, ever imposing, internal perspective.
JUDGEMENT…The hardest thing we are on ourselves!! This is the word. the action. the thing that stops us the most besides fear (since they are so very related).
So many of us spend our lives judging ourselves. Attempting to live by standards that were most likely set into motion by someone other than ourselves. Ideals placed in our field by our parents and society. I mean it really is the job of our parents, caregivers to help mold us into the people we are today. We learn to live by the values of our loved ones. I am not saying any of that is wrong!!! Not at all! Especially since the alternative would be solitude growing up, where we would never be able to choose a side or know right from wrong.
What I am trying to do here is make you think about your values for a moment.
Are they truly yours? Do you believe them? Do they feel in alignment with your current path… How does it resonate within your current belief system?
These are some short sentences that hold some pretty big questions. I would suggest writing out your ideals, your values, basically the things that instantly come to your mind, that represent a good life, good person.
Now…put a check mark next to the ones you would expect your friends to live up to.
Next, put a check mark next to the ones that you expect yourself to live up to.
Now… look at this list. Does it seem complete… all the check marks where they need to be? You may be thinking… where are you going with this? Well, if you have two check marks next to each item on your list this is great. Possibly you are in alignment. Why do I say possibly??? Because we have a few of these lists… and the expectations with the items on the lists seem to change. But it is a great check point to become more aware of your ideals, your values.
The next thing to think about is what holds you back from doing something that does not affect your value system.
let me give you some examples….
I would like to quit my job. I don’t , because I am afraid that it would make me a quitter, a failure.
NOW , If my friend were to say to me. I really want to quit my job and do (blank). I would counsel her to do what makes her happy. That she would not be a quitter by moving in the direction her heart was pointing her. I would ask her why she would consider herself a failure? I would empower her to be who she was ment to be.
I have decided to hold myself to a standard that I do not hold my friends at…why? Why would we judge ourselves in a way we would never judge someone else?
Here is another example:
I do not like to cry. I hold my tears in. When I start to cry, I get angry at myself and feel like I am weak. I tell myself nothing good comes from crying. Weak…weak… overly emotional…woman. Float in head. LOL! Granted I know this is an issue and topic all on its own, but I digress… back to the example. NOW, the scenario changes and a good friend comes to me with an issue. They are crying…and they start to apologize for crying. I stop them and tell them not to apologize. They need to cry, release it. Feel it. Let it out. They say, I feel like such a baby though… I tell them that they are anything but. All the while in my heart I feel so much love and compassion for this person. I do not feel judgement… I do not look at them as weak…or overly emotional or as being “female”…NOT AT ALL. Why is it easier to be accepting of this behavior with someone else but not in myself/ourself?
Now these were just personal examples to try to make my point. Each of us have different situations that they can possibly relate to. Just as we each have different standards to which we attempt to live our lives. Are these standards on your list? Are these standards yours or expectations others placed upon you? In the two situations above I have personally asked myself… do you think you are better than them? My answer is always no…I dont. I just expect more from myself.
I think part of it is judgement…and part of it is really knowing what we are personally capable of… we forget to be forgiving to ourselves. We forget to hold our self in a compassionate stance.
I know this became a truly long blog post… I am sorry. I could go on…and on…and on, however… It all goes back to what I have been talking about in my last series of posts… We need to look within, learn who we are.
Remember when doing any self work… we need to hold our space with neutrality and amusement.
Release expectations and let things flow. The best advice I can give you is to give yourselves the advice, and understanding that we would give our dearest friend…our children.
Love and light~
Someone recently asked me a question about forgiveness. To explain it, and talk about how we forgive. It really got my mind thinking about forgiveness…what is it. Is the act of forgiveness really taking place if while the words are echoing within you, your heart is screaming to be heard?
Is forgiveness really that of a spiritual nature or the ego? Think about it…
If it is truly coming from the heart…. I think…. it can be…but then why would we be needing to forgive, wouldn’t we just be accepting? Accepting the person or the behavior. Isn’t forgiving them just another means to state that they aren’t good enough or didn’t live up to your expectations or standards?
Granted there so many different times when forgiveness is being used so it can sometimes seem difficult to have a vague discussion about it… AND again I state that if we are truly forgiving someone for something it must be from our hearts to make it really valid.
Look at it from the side of receiving forgiveness… isn’t this too an ego booster. Doesn’t being forgiven for whatever it is we did “wrong” make us feel better about ourselves, relieved?
Let’s look at a pretty simple generic example: If someone were to say “I am really sorry I lied, I did not mean to hurt you like this”. If the apology is sincere, heartfelt and the person is honestly regretful for the act, and you honestly believe them and forgive them, then all is good in this situation. Forgiveness makes sense. The act is still somewhat ego based though (don’t you think?) since both sides feel better because one has been forgiven (exonerated in a way) and the other has had the power to forgive.When in truth the basis for forgiveness (I think in its original form or intention) was intended to be an acceptance of what happened with an acknowledgement of each others part in the pain.
Maybe we should be looking at our intentions behind forgiveness. Are you forgiving for the power of forgiveness or are you being forgiving because of understanding the situation or the person? I think the key is removing judgement, and being true and honest when you forgive. Saying the words I forgive you or I forgive___ can be really empty. The words need to have heart and feeling behind them to mean anything.
Overall acceptance and understanding need to have a play in forgiveness. No one is perfect and no one should ever feel like they HAVE to forgive someone…defeats the purpose of forgiving. We need to be in alignment with our whole self to truly forgive.
That brings me to another point that comes up with forgiveness… With big issues in life we are often told that we will never forget, but we can forgive. This statement is really a tough one. I think that no one should feel that they have to forgive… I think that the word “forgive” should be replaced with “Let go”. We may never forget, but we can let go. I like how that sounds much better. So often the big issues we hold on to where we are told to forgive, are the hardest ones… we hold on to them with such rigor… such hate… that forgiving is next to impossible. What we need to do is let go of it. Release it. Stop allowing it to take so much of our energy. The longer we hold on the weaker we become, our energy drains from us… because we are holding on to the issue/situation so tightly. All of our reserves go to holding on to the anger or hatred we feel, we are so often afraid that if we forgive it makes it ok…. Many times it is was not ok. Forgiveness in violent situations is a big thing to ask. Shouldn’t necessarily be asked. We should be focusing on letting it go. This is not validating the person or experience… it is, not letting the person or experience take anymore of our time or energy. It is freeing yourself to take care of yourself, to focus on love. Love of self not hate and anger.
Ultimately we create more of what we focus on, why spend time on hate and anger when you can focus on love of self (first) and others. Love creates Love… Anger creates Anger….Hate creates Hate.
You say you can’t find anything to focus your love on? Start with yourself… Look deep… Look around you, at the sky… Love is all around us.
Go create more love!
I have been thinking a lot about patience and acceptance lately.
The practice of patience is truly all about balance and practice, and practice makes perfect…right? Perfection can be quite a tall order. An aspiration I actually don’t think I wish to obtain.
The challenge of accepting where we are at currently in the big scope of our lives requires patience. So often we are overly focused on what we believe to be “needs” like; what needs to be done, what we need to complete, what we need to say, where we need to be. We lose focus on the beauty of what is. Some would say that it is best to live life to the fullest each and every day….others would say that a life in that direction is a wasted life, and others yet would say we should never lose sight of what was, and learn from our mistakes.
Well…Let’s see… A recent conversation in one of my workshops kind of addresses this. We were talking about being aware, learning to understand things that come up within our introspection. The conversation shifted on the discussing the importance of balancing our past our present and our future. We talked about how important it is to come to the understanding that the acceptance of all three is critical, for we cannot have one without the other. You also cannot live solely out the perspective of just one of them.
Let me see if some examples will help.
Dwellers of the past
Tend to be regretful, remorseful, and long for what was. Constantly tell stories of how things used to be. Have a really hard time accepting change as well as technology. Their minds tend to be set on predetermined or based off of pre-lived experiences only. Dwellers of the past are not always fun to be around because they tend to be slightly pessimistic and can seem stuck in life (as if they are not moving forward). Living solely from this frame of mind and you will not move forward, life will stay where it is.
Dwellers of the present
Tend to live just in the now. They can sometimes seem the life of the party, always having fun, taking nothing serious. they are fun to be around for periods of time. They can at times lead reckless lives. Never plan for anything. Eventually this focus will either keep them on the proverbial treadmill of life always in motion but really never going anywhere or staying just where they are. Living solely from this frame of mind you will eventually put yourself in the past. To stand steadfast in one place will eventually put you in the past and no longer in the present. Nothing living stands still, stops moving or growing.
Dwellers of the Future
Tend to be living always for tomorrow. Constantly focused on what can be. Focused on what will happen when… They can appear dreamy and unrealistic. They are often caught thinking about the what if’s in life. Coming up with ideas only to come up with a new one or another one. Always wanting to share the latest and greatest plan. Dreamers and visionaries, they are very inspiring people. They believe anything is possible, however they are always planning and never really seem to accomplish what they set out to accomplish (for the plan is always changing, before they even start it). Living with your site always on whats ahead of you, doesn’t allow you to enjoy what you have, or what you learn. To constantly think of a new way or better way forces you to never step forward in the physical form ( and that is what we are a physical of energy).
The goal I am sure you can already see is to find balance. To live with the past and in the present to create a new future. We need to be patient with our growth, our lives, and where we are along our path of life. Within the patience we need acceptance. We need to accept where we are, as well as all that is that makes us different. It is a constant focus this balance of acceptance of our past self, present self as well as the future self. Each essence as important as the other. Understanding that any one alone in excess would be dangerous.
Ultimately the key is balance, not shutting out or off a facet of ourselves. Everything in our life is about balance. Patience is no different…the key to patience is balance as well. Knowing when too much turns in to apathy and indifference and when not enough invokes arrogance and righteousness.
Eventually, acceptance of what is and patience in what is to be, creates harmony. Harmony within our spirits and our souls. We become active participants in our lives, we no longer focus on the past or blame others. We learn to assume ownership in our growth, our successes, failures and our enrichment.
What comes to you when you think of patience and acceptance?
I would love to hear!
Please remember this day is not bout who loves you or having a significant other… it is about love. we all have love in our hearts. Let today be about sharing that love with the universe. To the moon and back!
Clairvoyant Girl aka Jackie Mihalchick