I am not sure how long it has been since I talked about boundaries…but I feel it is once again a good topic.
So often we are unaware of how our energies really affect others. The more aware/enlightened I have become the more I find myself picking up on the subtle energetic differences we all have. Its like an energetic signature. Have you ever felt someone was near to turn and find them either walking up to you or already standing there? Have you ever been doing something and suddenly have a person pop into your head (your thoughts) only to have them call you moments later?
It is their energy. We all can sense things and chaulk it up to coincidence or de ja vue, for some reason this makes more sense then sensing someones energy.
Just like the energetic example I meantion above we can sense energies every minute of our day/life. We usually just assume they are ours. This is where learning how to use and place your energetic boundaries becomes really beneficial in decerning what is and isnt yours. What do I mean hear… Let’s see…
For right now I am not talking about setting physical boundaries or the boundaries we have that list our chosen limits and limitations. I am talking about your energetic boundaries. My good friend and mentor talks about setting your boundaries in her book The Clairvoyant Path . From her classes is where I first learned the importance of setting our boundaries. She uses the image of a rose. Setting a rose out in front of you ( acomfortable distance) and then placing it front to back, side to side, top to bottom and filling in all the gaps. For the longest time I could not get this format to work for me. I struggled, I could not grasp the visual of the rose, being enough for me (I can now and use it all the time). For me what worked in the begining was using a light. I could imagine a color that represented protection and imagine it surrounding me. I would (just like with the roses) change the color based on the boundaries I was setting.
Once you have your energetic boundary set (in your minds eye) play with the amount of space you can give yourself. This works amazing in tight spaces as you can set your energetic boundary smaller or larger than the enviroment you are in. Physical space play no roll in the energetic space you can give yourself. You could be sitting side by side someone and your space could expand through and past them with out including them. Space is infinit. The trick is finding a space for yourself that is comfortable and managable. You want to feel at ease. If you still have a problem conceptualizing light or the roses, I also have used the image of a giant clear hamster ball (with tons of little air holes for breathing). I imaging standing in the middle of this energetic hamster ball infuse it with color or roses and proceed.
Let’s talk about color for a brief moment. The color or colors you use to surround yourself with beit with the roses or just light will enhance the return on your boundaries. Colors can be very personal, as well as very powerful. Setting your energetic boundary with a color that represents love and protection is a beautiful and safe go to intention. Some times we however will need or would like a more protective or purposeful intention. We can set our boundaries at a color that represents, healing, protection, stregnth, humor, nutrality. Different situations can call for different supports. I have also been known to use mirrors at times. Why a mirror? Sometimes we can find ourselves in situations where we are energetically or emotionally attacked by people, people that push there energy on us. The mirrors allow us to reflect that energy they push on to us back at them. This can be quite abrupt and I honestly do not use it unless other methods have failed me.
Without setting some type of energetic boundary around ourselves our energies begin to commingle with all that is around us (our energies still do this to an extent) which makes it hard to determin what is really ours and what is someone elses all together. I like to give the example of standing in line at the grocery store, you’re content one moment and then suddenly you feel a surge of emotion (could be anything but for discussion here let’s say anger) you suddenly feel angry, anxious and after a moment or two of realizing this sudden burst of emotion, you question it. You think, what is this all about? Why am I so upset? It is then that you hear the person in front of you arguing with someone on a phone. They are really upset. This energy that you suddenly felt (which made no sense and was just thrust on you out of the blue) wasn’t yours, isn’t yours. It is theirs.
Having your boundaries in place help in this situation by allowing their energy to go around you, around your space, your emotions remain yours, unaffected by thiers.
Everyone should be using boundaries… especially if you are a healer or empathic, you tend to absorb a lot of energy. Even if you are diligent about energetically releasing yourself from the people you work with, those moments of treatment can be quite intense at times, energies get jumbled. This is where you could use multiple layers of energy and color for your boundaries. For your inner layer the one closest to self, you could intend for self protection, your space. Then add a layer for your work enviroment. Maybe add another layer for your healing encounters with other people. Hopefully you get the idea. You literally can layer yourself with as many layers as you need to.
Ultimately once you start using your boundaries and start to feel comfortable in your space you end up noticing just how much you protect yourself from what can feel like energetic war fair. Besides self protection it allows you to not impose your personal space onto others. You keep what’s you and yours protected.
For the most part I like to place two layers of boundaries. However when I do just a single layer I have the inside designed for me personally, and the outer appearance of the layer for all those I encounter. I can intend the outer vibrations to resonate with love and peace for all.
I hope this gives you something to think about. Play around with setting your boundaries. Get comfortable within your space.
As a final note, setting energetic boundaries don’t need to end with your personal self. You can set boundaries around your house, your car, motorcycle anything! I have been known to place a camouflaged boundary around my car. 😉
When you start to set boundaries you will be able to release yourself from energies that have latched on to you that serve you no purpose, you will feel energetically lighter and more in control of your own self. Practice, see what you notice. Good luck~ lots of love and light!