Why I write…Sharing a writing contest , check it out.

What: In your best, most succinct writing – and in 100 words or less – tell us why you write. Dig deep. Why do you continue to put pen to page and what mark, through your craft, do you hope to make on the world?

How: http://www.literarybits.com/our-first-literary-bits-essay-writing-contest/

When: You have until 5:00 p.m. EST on Friday, April 26 to enter.

The Prize: Winner will receive one Moleskine Classic Extra Large Soft Cover ruled notebook (7.5 x 10). Picture above.

Click the link to go to the contest. GOOD LUCK!
I found that it was a really good lead in question…why do I write? Why do you write?? Here is my submission, I hope you enjoy.

Why I write…

I write to tell a story, my story. Writing allows me to make sense of the thoughts and words that dance relentlessly in my head. To show how putting one feeling to paper can take an army of words to express. I write to inspire thought. In writing I wear no masks, I am exposed. With my words I can only hope to awaken the desire of others to look within. My dream is to provide an environment that allows us to slow down and realize we’re not alone. I am a narrator and my story is my life.

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Sometimes I wonder who I am… and then I have the craziest dream…

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Sometimes I wonder where I am…Who I am…Do I fit in…

The truth is the only question that matters is “who am I” the others don’t matter. The others just cause us sadness when we dwell or try to fit in. The strength needed for us to realize that all we need is to be who we were meant to be, is enormous for most.

So often we spend such a large part, if not our whole life worrying about trying to fit in that we forget to live and be who we are or were meant to be. I keep getting the message that it is time to stop conforming to a mold that is outdated. We need to refocus our intentions to living our life, not narrating it or analysing it…living it.

Make the necessary changes needed to open yourself up. I have been periodically listening to YouTube videos on Abraham Hicks… I am really loving the message. The are so…simple. yet we so often over look or miss them. This is one I listened to today.

I woke up this morning not wanting to really get up (this happens most days LOL! ) today it was for a different reason. I was having the most peculiar dream. I got up and dismissed it… went about my day feeling slightly off. Being extra aware of not really “fitting” in, yes…we all feel this way at times. But as the day progressed and after listening to the Abraham Hicks video, I was at lunch talking to a friend when my dream hit me again.

I realized I needed to take a longer look at it. This is what I dreamt last night.
I had the most interesting dream last night.

I dreamt I was riding this horse through the woods…up and down a mountainous terrain. It was beautiful yet there was a reason for the ride. It felt like a hunt.
I had others with me, and I recall talking with them but I do not remember what was said. We agreed on something, then I dug my heels into my horse (so I thought it was a horse) and took off in a direction on my own. I remember getting tired of the journey and resting my head on my horses main (again…so I thought). this is when I noticed that the main was not like that of a normal horse. It was soft and fur like, fluffy and so very comfortable. My hands sunk into the sandy colored mounds of fluffy fur. I then, opened my eyes and saw that I was not holding on or riding what I thought to be a giant magnificent horse, but a mighty lion. Larger than any lion I had ever seen before.
I found my self extremely comforted, not at all afraid as one might think you would be on the back of a mighty lion. I dug my hands and arms in deeper and rested my head in his main. I felt comfortable, and deeply tired. It felt safe. I remember riding off…seeing myself holding on to this beautiful majestic creature,my larger than life lion…confidently and full of love. We belonged together.

This was my dream…

 

All afternoon I kept thinking about this dream…this lion, and how comfortable I felt. I went on a mission of needing to know what it meant. I began looking up dream symbolism and found many things that really seemed to make sense… I was actually surprised to have found something that actually said ” To ride one, denotes courage and persistency in surmounting difficulties” this seemed to really click. I kept searching… I went to one of my favorite sites Whats your Sign and found this.

When the lion comes to us it is a sign for us to step into our natural birthright of power. Each of us is born powerful and divine. The lion reminds us of this.

Other messages the lion shares with us:

  • Hold your head high – even in times of conflict – conduct yourself with dignity
  • Stand tall, remember your birthright of power
  • Perhaps it’s time to show your authority (not in a dominating way) but lead others with a loving heart
  • It may be time to defend something that is dear to your heart – defend it fiercely if you must.
  • Have courage, have faith.

While I kept searching for the answer to my dream I knew inside that the real answer always lies within us. I chuckled at myself and decided to break my dream down. It began to make som much sense. So to save you the time I ran myself through… I thought I would share the steps that I (eventually) run myself through that REALLY always helps me understand its meaning.

To really figure out your dream try following these simple steps:

  1. To start…write it out. Jot down as much detail as you can.
  2. Now begin to disect it if you remember enough of it, in halve, thirds fourths…what ever you need based on its legnth.
  3. Ask yourself how you felt about an event, or encounter.
  4. What reaction does it invoke with in you?
  5. Does it prompt you to think of something else in your life unrelated to the dream?
  6. Who or what does it remind you of.
  7. If none of these help… try explaining your dream out loud to someone (who will listen) and explain it to them as if they were an alien from another planet and you had to really explain in detatil the simplist things in the dream. This will sometimes help to break down the drama or wow factor of the dream and help you see it from a very basic perspective.
  8. Then as I did…you can look it up on the internet and see what you find (you would be amazed at what is out there) the thing is with the internet…like I said earlier. Your dreams are just that…yours. Your symbolism is not going to be the same and mine or your neighbors or even your best friends. We are all unique in that we carry attachments to many things in many different ways.

The big message here is our dreams carry custamized messages big, small and everything inbetween for us to learn from or be reminded of. Even when they seem to make no sense at all there is something to it. It is not just the stuff you ate before bed! Learning how to decode your own symbolism is the best way to figure out your message.

So tap in… keep a dream log. Listen and see what you learn. Just maybe you will be awaken to the you, you left behind. The person that you have been trying to make fit in.

When you close your eyes tonight… ask for a message, an answer… see what you get. Remember, it takes practice for some to get back in touch with our subconscious…

When you ask a question do you listen for the answer?

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He doesn’t hear you…

 

Do you say what you mean or mean what you say? Do you communicate with agenda or authenticity? What are your intentions? Do you start a dialogue with someone with an intention or agenda? When you ask a question do you listen for the answer? If you are not listening for the answer are you even hearing the question? Do most of your communications with people happen out of habit? Do you think before you speak?

These are all things I really started contemplating last week. Our communication…my communication where are we effective and ineffective.

I don’t believe it is possible to be the perfect communicator at all times…would it be great, yes.  Realistic, I don’t believe it is possible.  One of the things I really try to maintain in my blog  is being honest.  Even when being honest is not easy.  Just as I am human, we are all human.  I am reminded everyday that I am living a clairvoyant life, not a spirit life.  I am in all my glory, human and to error is to be human.

Maybe it was Mercury’s recent retrograde that got me thinking about communication, how we do it, and our thoughts behind it.  I remember this teacher I had in 7th grade…she asked a few of us in class one day how we were.  A lot of people responded with the normal, fine thanks how are you.  Not a big deal or story right??? Well, actually it is a really good story.  Stop and think for a minute…if someones in passing says to you “Hi, How are you doing?   What do you do?

Do you stop and look at them and say “Hi (so and so) I am doing really good, How are you doing?” or do you say, “Fine thanks, how are you?” Either response is really nice and politely sufficient, wouldn’t you say so?  What is the difference?  Well the only difference is in your awareness of the question and intent in answering.  Meaning, are you responding out of pure habit, or are you slowing down and processing the question and answering honestly?

The majority in the class responded out of habit.  the standard, fine thanks how are you.  Where as soon as we have finished uttering the word “you”… we have moved on and past the encounter, not pausing for even an answer.  She asked us all to test it.  Go out and ask the question to others, and see how they respond.  She also took it a step farther and asked us to respond non traditionally when we were asked how we were…either pause and really think before saying “fine” or say something different all together.  See how many people even notice what you say in your response.  The results were actually quite sad.  I blame, and thank  that teacher on the beginnings of my so-called awareness.

Now this test was in the late 70’s for me…but I think you could do it now with unfortunately similar findings.

About five years ago I used to work with someone who would get so annoyed with me for not asking them back how they were in this salutation.  They would see me…and say “Hi Jackie, How are you today”.  I would say “Hi Scott, I am fabulous (or sometimes Great, I would pick a letter and go with it that day) thanks” and I would continue on.  He would always respond with “I am fine too, thanks for asking”.  the thing was… I would never say I am fine, or ask him how he was.   That is what he would hear because he was never listening.  I would chuckle and be on my way. Granted I should have left it alone…but it was so obvious he was not paying attention and not being authentic.  Eventually he noticed and it really bothered him and I should have played the game and said what your supposed to say, but I didn’t.  The thing about this exchange with my coworker was it was all about ego to him.  He would make this grand statement and hello in earshot of others.  He had something to prove and I was just not the one to play along.    I learned that one afternoon in 7th grade that we can and should be polite but we should also not say things just to say them.  If I am truly wanting to know how you are I will ask you and I will listen.  I forget that I am expected to ask, out of simple courtesy .. but I believe that in the end it isn’t courteous it is rude (especially if I am not going to really listen to your answer).

In the situation above between my coworker and I, finally one day when we went through our daily routine, I responded with “that’s great Scott, but I learned a long time ago that when someone really wants to know they will not only ask, but listen”.  He got the message and we no longer had to play the game.

This example is specific, but really it affects all of our communications.  When we say I am sorry… are we saying it to just say it? Have you ever listened or counted how many times you say it, in a day?  Do you over say it?  Are you sorry when, in all reality whatever you are sorry about has nothing to even do with you?  In one day how many times do you say you are sorry?  For some of us we may be amazed at how often we are sorry.  Does the universe hear this as a mantra?  I am not saying stop apologizing… I am saying bring your awareness back into your apology, your sympathy.  Mean it.  And really if you are apologizing that much in a single day…maybe there are other things you should be looking at within yourself.

Now that Mercury is out of retrograde, I thought a good blog on communication was in order.  Something to talk about how we seem to lose sight in our authenticity in social settings.  We fall into programmed behavior that started with good intent and purpose, but has lost it intentions.  We need to honor our communication.  Be true to what you say and speak from your heart. Time moves much to quickly to not take the time to slow down and engage with people. Especially in the age of such technology.   Being honest about your intentions, and keeping your communications powered through our heart center (Chakra) will keep us from manipulating others or situations.  

This week focus on being aware of your communications, check yourself and check how others communicate with you (are they listening…really listening or thinking about what they are going to say next?).  What I once thought was a simple class project became so much more.  It taught me to be aware of what I am saying and how I am responding.  I may not always remember it, but…hey I am human remember.  This really was a great experience in awareness.

I cannot remember this teachers name…really wish I did.  She taught my 7th grade creative writing class…she encouraged writing and spoke candidly of her faults.  She is also the same teacher that gave the class a lesson on personal boundaries (which I have written about previously) she left a wonderful impression on me.  This is something we all need to remember and be aware of…we leave impressions on people…we never know really what we do that will leave the impression, or when it will happen.  Just know that it does, and we do.  When you live from your heart you know the impression you leave will be a good one.  Have a beautiful week!

Namaste~

Don’t look at it as forgiveness… look at it as acceptance

254509_10151117635338129_771528384_nSomeone recently asked me a question about forgiveness. To explain it, and talk about how we forgive.  It really got my mind thinking about forgiveness…what is it. Is the act of forgiveness really taking place if while the words are echoing within you, your heart is screaming to be heard?

Is forgiveness really that of a spiritual nature or the ego? Think about it…
If it is truly coming from the heart…. I think…. it can be…but then why would we be needing to forgive, wouldn’t we just be accepting? Accepting the person or the behavior.  Isn’t forgiving them just another means to state that they aren’t good enough or didn’t live up to your expectations or standards?

Granted there so many different times when forgiveness is being used so it can sometimes seem difficult to have a vague discussion about it… AND again I state that if we are truly forgiving someone for something it must be from our hearts to make it really valid.

Look at it from the side of receiving forgiveness… isn’t this too an ego booster. Doesn’t  being forgiven for whatever it is we did “wrong” make us feel better about ourselves, relieved?

Let’s look at a pretty simple generic example: If someone were to say “I am really sorry I lied, I did not mean to hurt you like this”. If the apology is sincere, heartfelt and the person is honestly regretful for the act, and you honestly believe them and forgive them, then all is good in this situation. Forgiveness makes sense. The act is still somewhat ego based though (don’t you think?) since both sides feel better because one has been forgiven (exonerated in a way) and the other has had the power to forgive.When in truth the basis for forgiveness (I think in its original form or intention) was intended to be an acceptance of what happened with an acknowledgement of each others part in the pain.

Maybe we should be looking at our intentions behind forgiveness. Are you forgiving for the power of forgiveness or are you being forgiving because of understanding the situation or the person? I think the key is removing judgement, and being true and honest when you forgive. Saying the words I forgive you or I forgive___ can be really empty. The words need to have heart and feeling behind them to mean anything. 

Overall acceptance and understanding need to have a play in forgiveness.  No one is perfect and no one should ever feel like they HAVE to forgive someone…defeats the purpose of forgiving.  We need to be in alignment with our whole self to truly forgive. 

That brings me to another point that comes up with forgiveness… With big issues in life we are often told that we will never forget, but we can forgive.  This statement is really a tough one.  I think that no one should feel that they have to forgive… I think that the word “forgive” should be replaced with “Let go”.  We may never forget, but we can let go. I like how that sounds much better.  So often  the big issues we hold on to where we are told to forgive, are the hardest ones… we hold on to them with such rigor… such hate… that forgiving is next to impossible.  What we need to do is let go of it.  Release it.  Stop allowing it to take so much of our energy.  The longer we hold on the weaker we become, our energy drains from us… because we are holding on to the issue/situation so tightly.  All of our reserves go to holding on to the anger or hatred we feel, we are so often afraid that if we forgive it makes it ok…. Many times it is was not ok.  Forgiveness in violent situations is a big thing to ask.  Shouldn’t necessarily be asked.  We should be focusing on letting it go.  This is not validating the person or experience… it is, not letting the person or experience take anymore of our time or energy.  It is freeing yourself to take care of yourself, to focus on love.  Love of self not hate and anger. 

Ultimately we create more of what we focus on, why spend time on hate and anger when you can focus on love of self (first) and others.  Love creates Love… Anger creates Anger….Hate creates Hate. 

You say you can’t find anything to focus your love on?  Start with yourself… Look deep… Look around you, at the sky… Love is all around us. 

Go create more love!

Namaste~

 

When you come into contact with people are you presenting your true self, or do you wear a mask?

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I started thinking about this when I noticed that I have what seems to me as a slightly different presentation of myself, depending on the social situation I am in. So I started to take a look at what I am filtering and what masks I may  where and why.  This prompted me to list the most common social groups we encounter on a daily basis.  Some of these groups overlap eachother and can make them even that much more complex.

What about you, what masks or filters do you wear when you are with specific groups of people?  Do you represent yourself universally to all or does it depend on who you are with?

Take a moment and think about the following groups of people…

  • Strangers
  • Friends
  • CoWorkers
  • Spouse
  • Family (immediate)
  • Relative

I would love to say that  I am always the same person.  But I am not.  I used to strive to be the same person all the time.  The same face, same energy.  However what I have come to realize is that I am missing the beauty of all that I am.  We all wear so many faces throughout the day, it is the forgetting of our truth and our essence while switching from mask to mask that fades us away.  The trick, or lesson really (no tricks) is to learn how to remain yourself but allow your energy to adapt to the different situations you find yourself in,  to appropriately shine.

If you were asked which of the above do you feel you can be your true unmasked 100 watt self around, what would you answer?  Would it be Family, Spouse, Friends?  How many would pick  Strangers?  In giving you a 100% honest answer, for me I would pick Stangers.

Many may argue my point, and please feel free.  I love to hear and learn other perspectives!
I would pick strangers because with them there are no preconcieved expectations.  I can just be.  Usually in those moments of just being, when we do not think about the how or the why we are able to just be.

When we are with all the other groups our Friends, Family, Spouse, CoWorkers and Relatives we are ourselves but with a filter or mask.  We excentuate the traits that blend best with a specific group.  This goes even further than the groups listed we have subgroups within subgroups.  The challenge we all face is balance.  Balancing the extent of the filters or masks we wear.  If you find that you are using filter upon filter to drown out your truth then you are no longer being authentic.  Many will say you should not have to filter or mask at all that you should be accepted for you in all your entirety.  I think that there is sooo much truth to that, however I would challenge those with only that stance. 

 My challenge would be this.  Think about the many multidimensional layers that make us who we are.  In different times of our lives one may be more dominant than another (granted if you have successfully learned all that you were here to learn and were living in nirvana, well then this would not apply).  For all the rest of us we have journeys to travel and lessons to learn.  If we only surround ourselves with those that are just like us we become limited in our thoughts and our growth. By not allowing ourself to filter and not shield off others we are able to encounter new situations, new information and expand.  Learning and growth is about expansion of both our views and our encounters. Let us also not forget the power of enlightenment of others.  Allowing others to see our spark will draw them near and open there hearts and minds to possibilities they had not thought of before.  We are all here to share our knowledge with each other to come back to the collective.  Filters and Masks can help us connect more, it allows the different personalities that we all posses, the ability to unite and have a voice.

 Some here may call me crazy, but I really do believe we all carry multiple personalities; some of course may have more varied personalities than others abd there is a fine line of control with these traits.     

Think about it like this; if you are a parent you have a parent mask that you wear, at work you have (or for a lot of us) you have a professional mask you put on and filter out the party animal.  With friends you allow the social side of your to become dominant and you allow the worry and stress to be filtered.  With our spouse or a significant other you allow a romantic side to flow through and you enter a deeper more intimate you be exposed.  Some here would say that the filters and masks go away.  But this is where I disagree, almost all of them do but you still have expectations that are within the relationship, for the most part here, you have to wear the filter or mask however  you may perceive it to remember that you must consider another, not just self.  I am not saying we are not authentic or we are not really ourselves, I am saying that we all have layers and masks.  I just wonder how aware are you of yours?

The next question past awareness of the filters and masks are how you are using yours.  Are you hiding behind them seeking false acceptance?  Are you afraid to take yours off for fear of rejection?  Have you lost sight of who you really are? 

This is where running your energy, and grounding yourself can help you get back to you.  By learning how to tap into earth and spirit and then release…all that isn’t yours…This is how you can find your way back to you.  Here you can also feel again how it feels to be just you. A you without expectations, without responsibility, without masks and most importantly without judgment.   You are then able to look at where you wear your masks and filters.  You will be able to discern what serves you and what doesn’t.  The process of finding your energy and allowing yourself the space and boundaries to be all that you can be will be the most rewarding experience of your life.  It is the foundation of all growth. 

You will then understand the different filters and masks that you use and how to use them in a constructive way that allows you to still be who you are. 

It all comes back to understanding ourselves, and to truly understand ourselves we have to understand our energetic field, bodies our quantum selves.  We need to first look within to understand what is on the external side. Our internal light (spirit) shines so bright that sometimes we need to hold a space that allows our energy to not overpower anothers, this is where understanding your energy and holding your boundaries is so very crucial!

Going back to my intitial question of: If you were asked which of the above do you feel you can be your true unmasked 100 watt self around, what would you answer?  My initial answer of Stranger is probably incorrect.  Even when we are encountered by a stranger we are probably wearing the masks and filters of whatever situation we are in.  We have a higher chance of being 100% us, especially since we could be in that relaxed transition state.  My answer now though would be none of the above situations and would be, when I am running my energy. 

Well, there is a quick look at masks and layers.  Soon we will talk more about the positives as well as the negatives. 

Have a wonderful day!

Namaste~

Snow Angels

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Earlier today I was really uncertain about what I would blog about. I spent much of the day shoveling snow, then shoveling again. But, all the while I was shoveling I couldn’t help but stare at the beautiful crispness of the day. I was filled with a child like sense of wonderment, of all that was possible. Memories of past forts, snowmen and snow angels came bursting into mind. After all the said work of shoveling and snow blowing were done, I threw myself into the snow…I laid there…took a deep breath and as I exhaled, I made my first snow angel in years. When I was done, I looked up into the snow filled sky and smiled, tomorrow would be a full moon.
So …I must write.

Like I stated above, we received a lot of snow today where I live. Beautiful blanket of a crisp white snow, covering all that was previously exposed. Seems fitting on the eve of a Virgo full moon.

This full moon actually contrasts the signs of Virgo and Pisces.

Why do I say fitting? One of the many things the Virgo full moon magnifies for us is the need to sift through our essence. Look at who we really are. We are asked to look within. Peel back the many layers of conditioning. Release all that does not serve our higher consciousness.

While Pisces teaches and reminds us that we are both a particle and a wavered portal and eternal, a singular and indivisible part of the universe. Pisces asks that we see through the illusion of duality put our trust in our inner knowing and remember how we are all one.

The fresh layer of snow today filled me with a sense of beauty, and peace. It was like I was looking at a blank slate. I could make it anything I wanted. So in an essence, I am being prompted to look within with the same excitement. Release all. Sit with your sovereignty, feel the essence that it you. When you start to fill back, only call back the energy and focus that best serves your highest good, or what rings true to you. Not what you are suppose to feel or believe.

Recently I read some information on the Virgo full moon by a Stephanie Austin. Something she said really imbedded itself into my head. She said (in reference to the alignment of the sun, Chiron, Venus and Neptune) “These alignments show us that acceptance, not time, heals all wounds. Judgement and resentment close our hearts and will literally make us sick.” I have really found this to be true in my life. Big events, painful events do not go away, the imprint or impact that they make on our life are difficult to fade. Acceptance of what was, what happened, allows us the ability to move on. If your are unable to accept, you may need to look within a little more, what are you blocking, why are you holding on.

Letting go doesn’t mean it wasn’t whatever it was, it means that you no longer are going to fuel it. You are no longer going to keep the energy flowing. By continuing to send it energy you create a circle event…it always comes back to you, over and over again.

Look at the blank slate (blanket of snow) start fresh. Don’t know how? Intend it. Intentions are that powerful.

I actually saw a post on Facebook today, someone said that the February full moon is called the snow moon, definitely the case today here in Loveland, Colorado. Check out my FB page!

Enjoy your full moon.

Namaste~

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Is what your feeling yours or theirs? Can you tell the difference?

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I am not sure how long it has been since I talked about boundaries…but I feel it is once again a good topic.

So often we are unaware of how our energies really affect others. The more aware/enlightened I have become the more I find myself picking up on the subtle energetic differences we all have. Its like an energetic signature. Have you ever felt someone was near to turn and find them either walking up to you or already standing there? Have you ever been doing something and suddenly have a person pop into your head (your thoughts) only to have them call you moments later?

It is their energy. We all can sense things and chaulk it up to coincidence or de ja vue, for some reason this makes more sense then sensing someones energy.

Just like the energetic example I meantion above we can sense energies every minute of our day/life. We usually just assume they are ours. This is where learning how to use and place your energetic boundaries becomes really beneficial in decerning what is and isnt yours. What do I mean hear… Let’s see…

For right now I am not talking about setting physical boundaries or the boundaries we have that list our chosen limits and limitations. I am talking about your energetic boundaries. My good friend and mentor talks about setting your boundaries in her book The Clairvoyant Path . From her classes is where I first learned the importance of setting our boundaries. She uses the image of a rose. Setting a rose out in front of you ( acomfortable distance) and then placing it front to back, side to side, top to bottom and filling in all the gaps. For the longest time I could not get this format to work for me. I struggled, I could not grasp the visual of the rose, being enough for me (I can now and use it all the time). For me what worked in the begining was using a light. I could imagine a color that represented protection and imagine it surrounding me. I would (just like with the roses) change the color based on the boundaries I was setting.

Once you have your energetic boundary set (in your minds eye) play with the amount of space you can give yourself. This works amazing in tight spaces as you can set your energetic boundary smaller or larger than the enviroment you are in. Physical space play no roll in the energetic space you can give yourself. You could be sitting side by side someone and your space could expand through and past them with out including them. Space is infinit. The trick is finding a space for yourself that is comfortable and managable. You want to feel at ease. If you still have a problem conceptualizing light or the roses, I also have used the image of a giant clear hamster ball (with tons of little air holes for breathing). I imaging standing in the middle of this energetic hamster ball infuse it with color or roses and proceed.

Let’s talk about color for a brief moment. The color or colors you use to surround yourself with beit with the roses or just light will enhance the return on your boundaries. Colors can be very personal, as well as very powerful. Setting your energetic boundary with a color that represents love and protection is a beautiful and safe go to intention. Some times we however will need or would like a more protective or purposeful intention. We can set our boundaries at a color that represents, healing, protection, stregnth, humor, nutrality. Different situations can call for different supports. I have also been known to use mirrors at times. Why a mirror? Sometimes we can find ourselves in situations where we are energetically or emotionally attacked by people, people that push there energy on us. The mirrors allow us to reflect that energy they push on to us back at them. This can be quite abrupt and I honestly do not use it unless other methods have failed me.

Without setting some type of energetic boundary around ourselves our energies begin to commingle with all that is around us (our energies still do this to an extent) which makes it hard to determin what is really ours and what is someone elses all together. I like to give the example of standing in line at the grocery store, you’re content one moment and then suddenly you feel a surge of emotion (could be anything but for discussion here let’s say anger) you suddenly feel angry, anxious and after a moment or two of realizing this sudden burst of emotion, you question it. You think, what is this all about? Why am I so upset? It is then that you hear the person in front of you arguing with someone on a phone. They are really upset. This energy that you suddenly felt (which made no sense and was just thrust on you out of the blue) wasn’t yours, isn’t yours. It is theirs.

Having your boundaries in place help in this situation by allowing their energy to go around you, around your space, your emotions remain yours, unaffected by thiers.

Everyone should be using boundaries… especially if you are a healer or empathic, you tend to absorb a lot of energy. Even if you are diligent about energetically releasing yourself from the people you work with, those moments of treatment can be quite intense at times, energies get jumbled. This is where you could use multiple layers of energy and color for your boundaries. For your inner layer the one closest to self, you could intend for self protection, your space. Then add a layer for your work enviroment. Maybe add another layer for your healing encounters with other people. Hopefully you get the idea. You literally can layer yourself with as many layers as you need to.

Ultimately once you start using your boundaries and start to feel comfortable in your space you end up noticing just how much you protect yourself from what can feel like energetic war fair. Besides self protection it allows you to not impose your personal space onto others. You keep what’s you and yours protected.

For the most part I like to place two layers of boundaries. However when I do just a single layer I have the inside designed for me personally, and the outer appearance of the layer for all those I encounter. I can intend the outer vibrations to resonate with love and peace for all.

I hope this gives you something to think about. Play around with setting your boundaries. Get comfortable within your space.

As a final note, setting energetic boundaries don’t need to end with your personal self. You can set boundaries around your house, your car, motorcycle anything! I have been known to place a camouflaged boundary around my car. 😉

When you start to set boundaries you will be able to release yourself from energies that have latched on to you that serve you no purpose, you will feel energetically lighter and more in control of your own self. Practice, see what you notice. Good luck~ lots of love and light!

Namaste~

Gratitude for a successful event!!!!

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I need to take a few moments and talk about The success of The Everyday Psychics Conference! I am filled with gratitude and I want to thank everyone that was able to come out and participate!

It was AMAZING!!!! The women I worked with that day were amazing, the attendees were amazing…LOL! Yep, you could say it was amazing.

I was surrounded by such powerful and beautiful energies and all with the highest of intent for the day as well as overall enlightenment.  Our topics were all diverse yet so very similar.  It provided for such beautiful diversity.

I talked that day about understanding your energy, and the importance of grounding.  In the morning we spent a lot of time introducing ourselves, sharing our early experiences and talking about what it means to be psychic, intuitive or clairvoyant in our own lives.  In the afternoon we each had about 45 minutes to share a tool with you.  I took everyone through a guided meditation and grounding session. I talked about the energetic body and the many dimensions of self that make up who we are.  Eva Black Tail Swan did a drumming workshop and exposed us all to a wonderful sample of the Cherokee Ceremony. Sarina Baptista connected attendees to their crossed over loved ones and explained how this works for her.  Jonelle Davis talked about uncovering our wounds to find our gifts and how knowing your birth number can help you determine your perfect career.  Michelle talked about understanding your boundaries, and how being in tune with the cycles of time can help us all go with the ebb and flow of life.

We are trying to put together our next conference which will probably be in the Colorado Springs area early summer or late spring!

CLICK HERE to see some snippets of video of our intros as well as our closing comments of the conference! check us out!!!!!!

Namaste~

Do you believe in Magic, in a young girls heart?

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Just saying the word magic can conjure up all kinds of emotions. For many negativity is the primary one. It’s ok to watch a magician and call his act magic, but it is not ok to believe magic can exist. We are encouraged to believe the magician can pull a rabbit out of his hat, yet we are taught to fear the person that says they can concoct a love spell. Even I have a hard time with magic and my complete understanding of it’s complexity. Deep below the surface I can feel that oh so familiar emotion…fear. I also realize that even though I have come out of the closet (so to speak) in the area of clairvoyance/psychic abilities, magic is in a chapter all it’s own.

Of course once I really think about it, really look at it, I realize a lot of that fear is from programming.

Programming from this life time as well as others.
We are taught to be intrigued by it, entertained by it and yes, to fear it. With magic there seems to be so much more room for darkness. This darkness over shadows all the light. Witches and warlocks…even the titles given to those who possess the power are slightly ominous. History books tell tales of the sacrifices, and the fear that communities were overpowered with. They tell the tales, the stories of drownings and burning at the stakes. And for what? Intuition, for some, magic or witchcraft for others…but death,just because of what fear, or control?

As if we were not confused enough, we are then presented with the TV shows. Beloved characters and stories we connect to and fall in love with. This is my current past.

You see, I grew up wanting to be the Elizabeth Montgomery character Sam on Bewitched. I so wanted to be able to just twitch my nose and summon an item into my hand. I wanted to nod my head and disappear, only to appear somewhere completely different. She was amazing and my idol. I so connected with her…she in my eyes was the original “every day psychic”!

I can’t forget Barbara Eden, Jeanie from, I Dream of Jeanie! These were the women on tv I grew up with. Such beautiful, kind hearted women who taught me magic was ok, and acceptable. It was part of our everyday life. Or at least it could be. I guess that is why I struggle with it today. It confuses me that I could grow up watching them on TV,and yet still have the deep seeded fear of magic, and the darkness it brings. Some of this is I am sure due to the past lives i have lived where i have either misused my powers, or have been witnessed to its devastation. Some tragedies, no matter the lifetime, stick with a soul. They are embedded in our code as a form of protection against repeating events that led up to the devastation or pain we experienced. Even though I have this underlying fear of the bad that magic can do, I believe it is like anything else. The intention is always directly related to the vibration of the person conjuring up the scenario. The lower the vibration the more ego or power related magic, power never leads to good magic.

Good magic does exist. Magic is still a modality that I am not quite comfortable with (at least not 100%) for me in this lifetime, I know very little of its true capabilities. I know that I appreciate the kind of magic that comes from nature as well as what I was presented with as a child on TV.

I believe that it goes back to hope, and my idealistic views on how things could be. You see, my spirit connected with the infinite possibilities that these women on these TV shows exposed me to. I saw a glimmer of enlightenment (that my spirit recognized) and I connected with it. It was like a glimpse of something familiar, that my spirit embraced. Nothing else really mattered, the negativity, the tragedy or pain from past years of life. None of it stuck at that time. However, as i got older years and years of subliminal messaging and cultural un-acceptance forced the positivity aside and brought the fear and negativity to the surface.

Only once I started to become “in touch” again with my spirit, has the negative images started to recede.

My recent journey has brought many treasures of my youth to the surface again. Little memories such as a TV show (for me) has reminded me of things that I had forgotten. A renewed spirit and excitement for what is possible and what will not only be..but what already is. We are amazing bodies of energy, on an amazing journey through thought. I posted yesterday on my Facebook page a little drawing I did about thought becoming things, so chose the good ones. I think this pertains to each of our journey’s. It’s your journey, chose the one you want.

Do you believe in magic? I do.

Namaste~